A Marriage Proposal in The 21st Century

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“One of the most awkward moments in world history has to be speaking to a shortlisted arranged marriage candidate for the first time” ~ Chetan Bhagat

#truestory

This was exactly 1 month and 1 day after she met the man, whom she calls her husband today.

She was dead against proposals because who knows who you are marrying in to, and why guys couldn’t find someone by themselves. Well, who was she to speak when she failed too. But, in her defense, her stories and justifications are different (she’s biased that way).

Also, let’s not forget the deadline given by her parents to get married (nobody understands parents’ rush). She had a year from October 2016 – October 2017. Find someone or someone will be found.  Sigh! And if she finds someone, parents will not go through the history of his ancestors, astrological myths and star mathematics to mix and match, but if they find someone, they can take him through the whole harangue of astrological calculations, star signs and all that torture.

So, she has completely given the burden to her parents, saying no to everyone who comes her way. When her parents were almost about to give up,  one of her father’s friend’s wife decided to propose a son of this friend’s friend, who was looking for a daughter-in-law, for a very long time.

There goes her independence!

Parents got super excited because referrals are way more stronger, reliable, accepted, and everything than the unknown devil has to offer.

First day

He dropped her a text. She always verifies unknown people, if she can’t register them or recall them, too bad, they are blocked! However, he passed through the verification process and they started speaking. Boy, he was nice. His language was really good, ten points for that. He was not too clingy messaging her or too spaced out. And for everything – he was in the middle. She loves middlegrounds, a much better place than the extremes.

Fourth day

They decided to meet. Tsing Tao (good selection she thought). He has booked a table at the top most floor (it is anyway in the second floor, so basically it was on the THIRD floor!!!!), and to get there was through a steep set of stairs and to her luck, unfortunately, she was wearing a 4-inch heel, a polka dot mini skirt and carrying a heavy handbag. That was a hike! She was panting, with a little wheeze and a red face out of sheer embarrassment. Had it been ten more steps, she would have been crawling up the stairs.

Moving on… they both enjoyed the food, the conversations were amazing – one topic after another, about everything and anything, not missing the in between awkward jokes and silences. All the while, she saw him falling for her. What she loved the most? His smile, the aura – never had she ever felt such a bubbly, lively, vibe from anyone. Not anyone who was close to her anyways (he was definitely hers)

Six months down the line

They got engaged. Legally married on paper!

One year later

They were busily preparing for their wedding in one month’s time. Never did she ever thought marriage proposals would work out in this day and age. It was such an understatement. Oh please note, there is a BIG difference between a marriage proposal and an arranged marriage. She was in the former.

So, what happened during the year:

  • Parents thought they were a match made in heaven. 86% to be exact (People would be billionaires without any financial bucket lists if astrology could be this true!)
  • The inner circles of both parties were introduced and guess what – everybody loves everybody. Everyone got along with each other just fine. This was a big tick on the checklist for her.
  • The friends were the bonus. They meant the world to them from both sides. Extended families were formed and accepted gracefully.
  • He encouraged her to pursue her passion for writing which she has completely almost given up.
  • The first to many arguments. Obviously, once the honeymoon period ended, they unwillingly welcomed real life drama – the flaws, the irritable manners, the nitpicks and all of that. And, she picked on every battle, every single one of them. And he has never argued, raised his voice nor has he initiated one.
  • Figured out the cooler one – HIM. Always with a smile, no grudges.
  • He is driven and she is a spendthrift.
  • Decided on whether to build a house or live in an apartment. House it was! (for him). With a cacti garden, balcony, turquoise walls, red French windows, library, and many more (for her).
  • Decided between to travel or to live. Travel – never settle in one place. Prague was her favourite, Iceland is his.
  • Family planning. 3 babies for sure. Both loved big families.
  • They met almost every single day until they got married, he came to see her with the most ridiculous excuse.

It was beautiful to see everything unfold right before your eyes. The best part was they took it by the day and played it by the ear, but hey there were times when all hell break loose.

Was it perfect? NO! That’s the beauty. It is a beautiful working progress.

Now, how do I know all of this – because I’m that girl.

Fall in love everyone xx

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Financial Goals Bucket List

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Whilst everyone is sharing their travel bucket lists and things to do before they die, I have put together 5 must-haves in your financial bucket list to achieve everything from the rim of the bucket to the final tick off before you kick the bucket.

Be Debt Free

Pay it off! I know it’s difficult and it’s a lot but pay it off.

The more you keep it, save it and savour it, you’ll be adding more to your list of financial burdens. As much as it is difficult, write the amounts down to detail, and arrange a standing order to get them out of your way – be it a credit card, a loan, a mortgage or a lease. You’ll thank yourself later.

My list of burdens involves a 5-year loan payment, an exceeded credit card balance for the past 6 months and a binge-eating spree on junk food. Yet, I put down this money bucket list and have started to work on building an emergency fund.

Retire Early

If this is what you truly want, make sure when you hit the golden age – you’ve got a pension pot, a life insurance and free from debts. Walking in to retirement in the absence of either one is like walking in to living hell, harder than the years you’ve worked. Think twice and act now!

I want to retire at the age of 40 and I have decided on my pension pot, the insurance benefits and, of course, zero debts.

Emergency Fund

Have you saved anything for a rainy day? Well I am.

Start with 10% from your salary and then increase it by 10% annually (this is what I can afford, but if you can do better, hike it up right away). Trust me, it’s worth it. You never know how this may come handy for that trip to Paris you’ve always wanted to go, or to tick off another item in your bucket list like spending for your wedding.

If you are like me, a junk foodie and shopaholic, who cannot keep their hands away when there is money around, put them on a fixed deposit. You have it safe, you cannot touch it until maturity and for a bonus – you get an interest added to it.

Be A Multi-Billionaire

It’s the 21st century, anyone can become a millionaire. People are aiming to be the next billionaire and zillionaire to top the world’s richest. If you are committed, works hard and diligent at saving money – you are on the path to become a millionaire. Read this to see how much you need to save daily to be one. Get into a millionaire mindset by reading ‘You Were Born Rich‘, you’ll never turn back.

Buy A House

This is an investment. While some prefer to live on rent, there are few of them who wants to build a house to call it home.

Either way, ownership on an investment is worth a celebration. Imagine the savings you make with the monthly rentals for someone else’s apartment, room, annex, or house. I’ve always wanted to live in a vintage style house.

Note to the Spendthrift…

I, myself is a spendthrift.

This is a never-ending list, because we keep adding to it whilst we tick off. The bucket list ideas are not to cut down our luxuries but to live a financial fruitful lifestyle one day.

Lists have always inspired me to get things done. Although this financial bucket list is general, you can personalize by adding numbers and timelines.

Hope this inspires you to create your own and feel free to share it me.

Happy Savings xx

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